Why does this bother me soo much?

So I have to give a bit of background before I get into this post.

(FYI: Both my kids attend the same preschool, one in the "3's" and one in the "4's" which are separate, upstairs and downstairs)

In about mid-December my daughter's preschool teacher's approached us and told us that they were concerned about her developmental skills..specifically, transitioning from one activity to another. She was crying and very upset every day at some point and they were concerned that she was not understanding what they were saying to her and referred us to our local health nurse to go through the "Ages and Stages" tests. So I had to go through Christmas not knowing what was wrong with my daughter and my mind went to ever dark corner it could to worry me further. I always knew she was a somewhat "high maintenance" child but just put it down to being spirited and JUST turning 3. So we go through all the tests and she just squeaks by with a pass but they still refer her to Queen Alexandra Children's Foundation for assessment and support. Fast forward to today, she has a support worker in her class with her 2 days a week at preschool and is doing tonnes better. She is interacting with other kids and has mellowed considerably on transitioning...they just give her cues and everything is fine. We have really notice leaps and bounds from where she was...I mean we still have our days with her but on the whole, MUCH better.

So I got over the whole "oh my gosh something is wrong with my child" trauma and moved on. They don't think anything is seriously wrong with her, just needed some extra cuing and really only needs the extra help in social settings...

So about a month ago my son's preschool teacher leaves a message saying she would like to talk to me about Gareth. Oh lord what could this mean? Maybe he's soo brilliant they think he should go straight to Grade 3!! Oh how proud am I? But it was as I feared. They too are worried about my son's comprehension skills and want him assessed by Queen Alexandra as well. O M G!! SERIOUSLY??? I mean I can handle one child with "extra needs" and I stress that I do realize it's not serious at all but was still a set back that she was struggling. But now BOTH of my kids are being followed by the Children's Foundation here? You really start to wonder where you have gone wrong in your life. Did I eat too much sushi while I was pregnant? maybe those hot tubs were a bad idea..omg the things you think!!

So for the first 3 weeks I tried to ignore the problem completely, like it never existed. Forms were sent to me to complete which I threw in the drawer and tried to bury but my husband was in less denial and wanted the things filled out and "let's get on this!" I was less enthusiastic. People were calling the house to make appointments and I would screen the call and let it go to the machine and not return the call. It was getting pretty bad.

I finally came to my senses one day in a talk with my husband. He got through to me that there was nothing we could do about the past but we SHOULD get on with this and get our son the help he needs, especially with him starting Kindergarten in the Fall. I felt stupid and almost neglectful of my little guy. So I went into overdrive and got those things filled out and sent off in the next mail delivery and now we wait to hear from them as to our next move.

OK so here's what bothers me (finally eh in the 15th paragraph) I don't like when the support people come out into the dressing/coat hanging section to discuss my children with me in front of other parents. What is WITH that?? I have finally come to terms with it myself...I don't need the entire preschool knowing about my child's struggles and perhaps a indiscreet parent mention something to their child who says something to my child and wound his little ego. I have such a parent at my preschool and the support people have approached me twice now in front of this woman who would love nothing more that to know my child is having problems and hers isn't....believe me this is the type of woman she is...brutal.

When we do get this thing rolling, I am going to mention to them that it would be MUCH better if they either phoned me or we met and talked about things. I am certainly not focused on the discussion as I very well SHOULD be and am more concerned about who's pretending not to hear anything and taking notes (YES this happened too @@).

Urg, just pisses me off that they would not even think about this to start with!!

vent over.